Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 209 "Friends"
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I am not convinced at all that "Friends" are necessary. The last time I decided to call someone "Friend" or consider a group of individuals my "Friends" was in middle school. I am not so sure what the purpose of "Friends" are anymore. I have heard a number of people talk about their "Friends" and how much they mean to them, a few months or years later, those so called "Friends" betray them or stab them in the back at the first chance possible.
For me personally, I have two categories of people in my life: Family and Associates. I will explain the variations between the two. People who are my associates are just those people I may converse with, work with, share spaces and places with. These are individuals who I have determined are a part of my life for the season and reason they are present, but not necessarily for a lifetime. My relationship with these individuals isn't personal and I am not so concerned personally with the decisions they make unless they negatively affect me. These people I solely associate with, but we don't have any personal interactions whatsoever.
On the flip side there are those people I consider to be Family. Now, when you have made it into my inner circle you are good for life. People I refer to as my family may not be in my bloodline, we may not have share any relatives, or live in the same country, but these people I will ride or die with. These people can have my very last and I will do whatever it takes to make sure they have what they need to be successful in this life til' the extent I can. I love my family, and that is something I don't just throw around often. My family means the world to me and they know it, if not, I am telling your right now.
I am not advocating to you to classify the people in your life the way I do, but I just don't understand the title "Friends." I often think people incorrectly categorize people in their life, and give them the "Friend" title because they don't know what else to call them. What is worse, due to social networks, people who you have known only through virtual interactions or through a request can become one of your "Friends." Do they deserve that title? Probably not. I think "Friends" and "Friendship" in general is overrated and oftentimes fake. It's okay if you don't agree, but I think you all should re-access the way you use the term "Friends." Everybody isn't your "Friend" and if you don't know that, get into a bind, you will find out the hard way.
~Friendless Me & Proud of It
Monday, November 8, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 208 "The Quest For Love"
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I think deep down inside of all of us there lies a need. A need that makes us all vulnerable. A need that humanizes us all. The need for "Love." While some have been fortunate to have very positive experiences with "Love," others of us have been unsuccessful. Thus, our "Quest For Love" continues.
Until recently, I didn't truly understand the many complexities that came with the four letter word, "Love." I have always been accustomed to hearing it from my "Loved" Ones, but the dynamic of having it said to me from someone outside the family bloodline is foreign to me. While I believe it is important to have La' Familia "Love," I believe it is even more important to find someone who "Loves" you and someone to share your "Love" with.
I write to encourage you, my sistahs, not to give up. No one said, "The Quest For Love" would be easy. Don't give up on us bruthas yet! Yes, I know De'Quan wasn't half the man you thought he was but he in no way represents all of us. Keep Hope Alive! Fellas, although we all know you won't admit it out-loud, I know Tyeshia was the one, and you know it too. But she decided to step out with another man. She is one lady among the majority, don't let your bad experience with her ruin it for your true soul mate. I know from my own personal experiences, "The Quest For Love" is indeed complicated, tough, and unpleasant. But, in the end, it will be all worth it. Or so I have heard.
~Mr. Love Ain't For Ere'body
Sunday, November 7, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 207 "Life's Deposits"
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So, today I am going to attempt to be inspirational in my message to you all. It is my hopes that with all of my messages someone can relate, but if not, I am hoping today's hits the spot. I write today, about something that is relatively new to me, but I've learned the importance of most recently, "Life's Deposits."
For those of you who don't understand what "Life's Deposits" are let me elaborate. "Life" is like a bank account but with better interest rates. Whatever, you put into it, you will get out of it, plus something extra if you give enough of it and let it stay in long enough. If you "Deposit" hard work, you will be able to withdraw success. If you "Deposit" service beyond self, you will be able to withdraw appreciation and accolades from those you chose to serve. If you "Deposit" persistence, you will be able withdraw a goal you obtained cause you didn't give up.
There are somethings in "Life" that when you "Deposit" them you get a return on that investment immediately. For example, if you "Deposit" good things in general, you will be able to withdraw good things. If you "Deposit" happiness and joy, you will be able to withdraw happiness and joy. If you "Deposit" the most important gift in this world, love, you will be able to withdraw love.
The moral to this topic is for you to understand that you have to make some sacrifices in this "Life." If you don't put anything into what you are doing in this "Life" you will get nothing out of it. It's pretty obvious to understand. You have to chose to make a "Deposit" in order to withdraw something. "Life" will always present opportunities for you to be able to make a "Deposit," but you must be willing and able to do so. "Life's Deposits" can be very small or very large, but what you gain in return could be more than you could ever imagine. Just give it a try. For once in your life, do something for someone or something besides yourself. Make a "Deposit" into someone else's future or situation and see what you will be able to withdraw. It may surprise you.
Please be reminded, not to treat these "Deposits" like you do your own personal bank account. Don't make a "Deposit" today and take all of out but the minimum balance a week later and expect to see a return. You need sometimes to let your "Deposits" sit for while and mature as you continue to make other "Deposits" in this "Life". Don't "Deposit" strictly to get something in return. Do it because its the right thing to do. If you never make any "Deposits" in this life, you will end up in debt and morally bankrupt. Ultimately meaning, you wasted away your whole "Life." Make a "Deposit" today!
~Your Financial Life Advisor
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