Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 230 "Flaws"
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Usually, every now and again, I try to self-reflect. Today, I want to talk to you all about "Flaws." "Flaws" are those things that help define us as imperfect people. "Flaws" remind us that we are indeed human and no matter how much we aim for perfection there will ultimately be some things we will be incapable of doing. I think all of us should be more honest with ourselves regarding our "Flaws," and not just the ones on the outside that everyone can see. I mean those "Flaws" that you internalize and don't share with anyone in this world. The more we recognize those imperfections about ourselves, the better son, daughter, sibling, friend, and lover we will be.
I have never wanted to be perfect, because I knew that no matter what I do, unfortunately it would never be perfect. Ultimately, there will always be "Flaws" present. There will always be "Flaws" in my personality, "Flaws" in my character, "Flaws" in my judgement, and "Flaws" in my leadership style. I know no one is perfect, but I do aim to be as close as possible to perfection. One of the things that has aided me with this pursuit is my ability to readily identify and accept my "Flaws." I have realized also, that what I see as "Flaws" other people don't see them as such at all. So, I don't always identify things immediately as "Flaws" anymore.
"Flaws" are as natural as child birth. Embrace them as you do your gifts and youthful looks. As long as you know what your "Flaws" are there is no chance that others should make you feel bad for not being what they thought you should be or for not being perfect. Honestly, I have learned to love my "Flaws." I mean why not love them, ain't like you can just get rid of them over night. Our "Flaws" are a part of who we are, they help define us, and make us beautiful, yet uniquely "Flawed" individuals.
~"Flawed" from birth...
Monday, November 29, 2010
New Music: Lil Wayne - Knockout ft. Nicki Minaj
0THEY SEEM TO BE HAVING SO MUCH FUN!!! I'M A LIL' JEALOUS.
Shock Value: Entry 229 "Time"
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"Time" is extremely important. No matter what you are doing, its seems like you never get enough of it. "Time" also is of the essence, because it most certainty is not to be wasted. "Time" is the number of seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, years, and decades we are given to complete the tasks assigned to us while we occupy space on this earth. It is important that we maximize our utilization of "Time" and attempt to manage it appropriately, because that which is wasted you can not get back.
I use to reflect on my "Time" and how I could have spent it more appropriately. Especially during periods of boredom or when it seems like nothing was going on. I have come to the realization that every second you have has to be used, because you never know when it will be your last. I write today to express to you all to make sure you use your "Time" wisely. As they saying goes, "Tomorrow isn't promised to anyone, but I added to that statement, "Neither is 5 o'clock."
~"Time" to go...
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 228 "Doors"
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I am feeling a little down today. Not like I am depressed or anything, but I am not my usual upbeat self. Give me a moment....Okay, lets get it! There ain't no rest for the weary. Today, is a continuation of my transition series. As I alluded to in my previous writings, I am on the cusps of a transition. I am not sure if it is going to be major or minor, but I do know that it is every present. One of the amazing things I am learning in this phase of my life is about "Doors." How to recognize them, how to appreciate them, and how to gain access to those that I had no idea I had the key to.
When I speak of "Doors," I am not referencing just the "Doors" on your car, the ones at your home, or the one you may be walking through shortly. I am talking about all those "Doors" in your life that you can't see. These "Doors" are similar to the chances or opportunities that present themselves in your life. I have always been interested, but not always aware of the "Doors" that have been put before me. Oftentimes, I think we just walk through "Doors" both physical and virtual without a true appreciation of what craftsmanship goes into the design of them. I think we all know that some "Doors" we have to open manually, some have keys or access codes, others, if you push a button or walk on a certain spot they open for you, but there are some "Doors" that you walk through and you don't even see them.
These most amazing ones are the "Doors" that GOD has placed before us all. These "Doors" are built by the Chief Craftsman, and may ultimately lead you to your destiny if you walk through them. The great thing about these "Doors" are that if one of them just so happen to close another one will open for you. There is always one unlocked and opening up for your to travel through eventually. I encourage you all to be patient, keep the faith, and know in the midst of it all, that GOD will always make a way out of no way. So if it seems as if you are stuck behind a wall or a dead in, look around, GOD has or will soon be placing a "Door" before you. Just be ready because if you don't recognize it when it arrives, you might just be standing there for eternity.
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 227 "Opportunities"
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I remember a great man once said, "Opportunities" may sometimes happen only once in a lifetime. It is imperative that s/he is ready for that "Opportunity." "Opportunities" don't always afford you a chance to make lengthy decisions. It is all about being prepared for "Opportunities" because you never know if they will present themselves again. "Opportunities" oftentimes are overlooked because some people feel as if they are given a shot once there will most definitely be another chance to get it right. While that may be the case in some instances it is not always guaranteed, thus s/he must take advantage of all "Opportunities" before you, no matter how big or small.
Sometimes "Opportunities" don't lend themselves to you for more than a moment. One has to be swift in their decision-making to assure that they don't squander away an "Opportunity" that very well may be a chance in a lifetime. "Opportunities" may be present at work, in your personal life, or just show up at your door. Wherever they may be, know that you may only get one chance to do the right thing. "Opportunities" may lead to endless possibilities, or they may lead to none at all, either way if you never take a chance or you aren't prepared when "Opportunities" come knocking at your door, it may be something you regret for the rest of you GOD giving life.
~Make It Count
Friday, November 26, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 226 "Tomorrow"
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The one thing that became more realistic to me today than every before, is "Tomorrow" is not promised. I don't care what you have been told, nothing you can do will ultimately prepare you for the realization that "Tomorrow" is just an idea, until it actually comes. I think most of us, put off til "Tomorrow" those things we can do today. But that is indeed inappropriate and a bit lazy if you ask me. There is no time like the present, and more importantly, "Tomorrow" is not guaranteed, so it would behoove of you to get it done today.
There are some very promising things that come with "Tomorrow." If you are having the most horrible day, or its seems like it won't ever be over, when "Tomorrow" becomes your today, that lets you know that what was today is now a part of your past. I thank GOD for my "Tomorrow" but I am most appreciative of my today. Also, "Tomorrow," if you are fortunate enough to see it, gives you another opportunity to pursue goals, complete tasks, and bring your dreams to the realization phase. There isn't a thing wrong with "Tomorrow" but it is the distant cousin of today. What you do at this very moment will determine if your "Tomorrow" even exists.
~Futuristic
Thursday, November 25, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 225 "Giving Thanks"
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I have to be honest with you all, I under no circumstance celebrate thanksgiving. First off, this is a bloody holiday literally. Innocent Native Americans were slaughtered in the masses and the pilgrims feasted while these people endured major pain, loss, and suffering. I could go on but I won't.
On a lighter note, there is one thing that is important about to day, people especially those who are usually unappreciative of things, have at least one day a year they "Give Thanks." I don't know about you, but I believe in "Giving Thanks" each day for every moment of my life. I "Give Thanks" for the small things and I "Give Thanks" for the larger ones. You should enjoy "Giving Thanks," because whether you know it or not, you have a ton to "Give Thanks" for. Just look around you right now.
In case there is any question for those of you who accept the imperfect being who is Me, just know I "Give Thanks" for each and every one of you daily. It ain't hard, its only like 3 or 4 of you. Too all of you enjoy this special time with your friends, family, and loved ones. "Give Thanks" for each of them and the time you are here because we never know what tomorrow brings.
Thankful I Am
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 224 "The Rear View Mirror"
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I thought that it would behoove of me to do what I know my calling is: continue to inspire people around me. In that vein, I am going to talk to you today about what I called, "The Rear View Mirror." Many times in this life people, find it difficult to move forward. There are a number of things that you may need to accomplish in this life, but because of things you have experienced in the past, you find it very difficult to move on. While I understand that you can't forget the things in the past, you can't continue looking in "The Rear View Mirror."
It's okay to acknowledge what has happened to you in the past. It's fine to keep it in mind while making future decisions, but if your focus is only in "The Rear View Mirror" you are going to miss what is going on right in front of you. "The Rear View Mirror" in a car is just to see what is behind you, especially when you are backing up. But in life, since there is no "Rear View Mirror" there is no need to spend countless hours staring in it. You need to focus your energies on making sure your present doesn't resemble your past. Especially, if your past has caused you great pain, hurt, or dissatisfaction. "The Rear View Mirror" may not be a tool of inspiration, but a tool of discouragement, if you only focus on those things behind you.
Take a quick glance in "The Rear View Mirror," see what you need to and move on. The windshield in front of you is much larger and you can see so much clearer by keeping your eyes and your mind on the future and the road ahead and not those times you couldn't change if you wanted too. Whatever you do, don't waste any more time concentrating on "The Rear View Mirror" things. You are more than your past, and as I always say, "what you do today, impacts your tomorrow, not what you did yesterday."
~Adjusting His Mirror
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 223 "Be You"
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I write today to encourage "You" to "Be You." In this world of imitations, barbies, fakers, posers, and wanna-bes, there is absolutely nothing wrong with "Being You." I don't care what others around "You" think, "Be You." Who cares if no one likes the way "You" act, "Be You." It doesn't matter who passes judgment on "You" or what others say about "You" behind your back, "Be You." In reality those cowards won't say it to your face or they may just be jealous, because no matter how they try they could never "Be You." As long as "Being You" isn't bring bodily harm or hurting others, "Be You" until you can't "Be" anything else.
One thing I've learned in this life, is there is nothing like an original, the real thing. "Be You" because "You" were made to "Be" the exact way "You" are. Learn to love yourself, your smile, your body, and your flaws. None of us are perfect; its just others have yet to get the memo. "Be You" so no one else can. Don't let others discourage your fashion, your favor, or your fidelity. "You" can do anything "You" put your mind to and "Be" whatever "You" want to "Be." Don't share your limelight, your spotlight, or your shine with others who only want to "Be" what they will never be, "You." It's okay to be confident and sure of yourself. "Being You" is the greatest gift "You" can share with the world, other than love. "Be You" because that is who "You" were born and destined to "Be."
No matter how hard "You" try, "You" could never "Be"....
Monday, November 22, 2010
Dave Hollister - What Do You Do
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I Thank You For Sharing Your Gift Of Song With Me and The World!!!
Shock Value: Entry 222 "What Do You Do?"
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Today, I am going to keep this piece very short. As I told you all in an earlier blog, I am in this transition phase of my journey. I heard a song most recently entitled "What Do You Do?" This song is a phenomenal grouping of melodies that really spoke and continues to speak to my soul. I am not going to go any deeper other than to say "What Do You Do" when it seems all else has failed? You do the only thing you can do---KEEP THE FAITH, HOLD ON, & BE STRONG!!!
Think.
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Notice: When Pac said "He was trying to get black People to THINK", it was at that moment, that the powers that "BE" decided, He had to die. All I want... Is for Black People to think.. Use your head. The fact that each and everyone of us is here right now is proof positive that there is something (genetic) within us that programs us to survive and succeed. Everyday that I walk this earth, I am proof of what can "BE". Apply this to yourself, and if you don't find that sense of personal inspiration... Get at me.
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 221 "Ladies First"
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I remember Latifah's line like it was yesterday, "Who You Calling A B*itch?!" One of the pioneers of the Women Empowerment Movement, Latifah and other female Hip Hop artists took a stand on the way women were being negatively portrayed in music videos and in rap lyrics in the early 90's. Today, absent of a movement of this magnitude its like we all have forgotten to put our "Ladies First" and how to treat our "First Ladies."
I will be the "First" to admit that I am not as respectful of "Ladies" as I should be. Part of this is because some of these so called, "Ladies" don't seem to have any respect for themselves. Is that any reason for me to treat them disrespectfully? Absolutely not. I make a conscious effort to treat most women with the utmost respect, because my Grandmother, who is the "First Lady" of my life raised me correctly. However, I struggle trying to view a "Lady" as a "Lady" when she walks around half-naked or when she opens up here mouth all kind of curse words constantly fly out. Now those things may be attractive or it may be what you look for in a "Lady," but not the kid.
When I think of a "Lady" I think of a virtuous women who is seen before she is heard, only because her elegance and grace lights up any room she enters, thus leaving the entire audience speechless. She has no reason to say a thing, because her image and presence speaks for her. Truth be told though, I think this is a fantasy in today's society, because "Ladies" in this day and age are taught to be super independent and make their presence known immediately, thus they are more vocal about some things and seem to always be on the defensive. I say some things, because no matter what they do at work or when they are out, they still let De'Quan and them, get away with things, because they are love-drunk. Either way, I think "Ladies" today, don't have enough positive "Lady" role models to understand what it takes to be a true "Lady." What hollywood and the media defines as a "Lady" or sometimes referred to as a "Diva" is not necessarily what it means to be a "Lady."
I have to be honest, I think we are in need of another "Ladies First" Movement. Guys have gotten way out of hand with the way the treat women. But, as I always say, "the level of respect you demonstrate for yourself, will always equate the level of respect you get from other people." Thus, if you dress inappropriately, talk filthy, or use your body to define who you are, don't be surprised when you find out the answer to Latifah's question: "Who You Calling A B*itch," is ---You.
~I Love The Ladies, I Do...
Saturday, November 20, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 220 "Chivalry"
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Is "Chivalry" dead? I think it depends on who you ask. For those of you who have no idea what "Chivalry" is I will define it for you right now. According to Wikipedia "Chivalry" is a term related to the medieval institution of knighthood which has an aristocratic military origin of individual training and service to others. It is usually associated with ideals of knightly virtues, honor and courtly love.
When examining medieval literature, "Chivalry" can be classified into three basic but overlapping areas:
- Duties to countrymen and fellow Christians: this contains virtues such as mercy, courage, valor, fairness, protection of the weak and the poor, and in the servant-hood of the knight to his lord. This also brings with it the idea of being willing to give one’s life for another’s; whether he would be giving his life for a poor man or his lord.
- Duties to God: this would contain being faithful to God, protecting the innocent, being faithful to the church, being the champion of good against evil, being generous and obeying God above the feudal lord.
- Duties to women: this is probably the most familiar aspect of chivalry. This would contain what is often called courtly love, the idea that the knight is to serve a lady, and after her all other ladies. Most especially in this category is a general gentleness and graciousness to all women.
~It Ain't Dead, It's Here Somewhere
Friday, November 19, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 219 "Wow Me"
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I have decided that there is a problem in the single world. I don't mean single world as in one world, I mean the single world as in those of us who don't have a significant other. I have contemplated on a few occasions, throwing in my singles card, but after seeing the drama that many other people in relationships endure I have as bout as much interest in having a lady friend as I do with having to brush my teeth with a rake.
I, unlike others, don't want Ms. Right Now, I want only Mrs. Right. At this point in my life, I might as well continue waiting, because if I wanted to settle, I could've done that years ago. I don't aim just to have someone next to me or by my side. I want someone to be my better three quarters. I want someone to be my support system. I want someone to lead me and guide me in the right direction. I want someone to travel and explore the world with local and abroad. I want someone to help me see my dreams into the realization phase as I plan on doing with them. I simply want someone to "Wow Me."
Yes, I know all of that seems like its too good to be true, or perhaps too much to ask for, but I truly believe their is someone out there with those qualities for all of us. Those lifetime couples who have made it through all the ups and downs, lead me to believe that while there is someone for everyone, you have to make sure that someone, is the someone for you. I am not looking for anyone specifically to "Wow Me, " but I do believe that there is someone out there who can and hopefully will "Wow Me" and hopefully you too. Maybe I expect too much or I am looking for too much, but I refuse to settle and if you can't "Wow Me" at the very least, then you don't love me, need me or understand the complexity that is "Me,""Wow!"
~4ever Single
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 218 "I"
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There is one pronoun that "I" absolutely cannot stand: "I." "I" wish "I" could use something else to refer to myself. Perhaps, "I" will create something soon. "I" just think there is something selfish about people who say "I" too often. "I" this and "I" that annoys the heck out of me. "I" personally don't give two cents and a half, if all you have to talk about is "I." If you are one of those people, in my mind you don't matter much to me. "I" find it most difficult to talk about myself at any time, so "I" am most annoyed by people who say "I" or talk about themselves all the time. Personally, "I" try to avoid these people at all cost.
No one wants to be around anyone who doesn't make them feel like they matter because all that person can muster up the energy to talk about is "I," "I," "I." While "I" know sometimes we aren't readily recognized for our many accomplishments, hard work, or service there is no need to remind us all of what you have done. "I" know "I" don't enjoy the "I" did this, "I" did that statements. Yes, "I" am well aware you did it, but give me or someone else a chance to acknowledge it. "I" want to take a moment to offer a wake up call to you "I" people out there. Your just not that important. Cheerlead in your own competition; pat yourself on your own back; buy yourself your own trophies. Whatever you do, keep your "I" statements to yourself before "I" end up "O"wing "U" a swift kick in your "A."
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 217 "Throwing In The Towel"
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Is it every appropriate to quit? I mean is there a time where we all need to just "Throw In Towel?" I know people tell you things like, "winners never quit, and quitters never win," but is that necessarily true for all things? I am having this honest discussion with you all because I believe sometimes winning the war is not worth that battle scares you may receive or have to life with for the rest of your life. As a result, I have been contemplating lately, "Throwing In The Towel."
I can't believe it has come to this point with some things in my life, but I am sure you may be able to relate to me. Some people aren't going to change no matter what you say or do. I know this but I am so hesitant to turn my back on these people or "Throw In The Towel," because I figure they may come to their senses one day and I want to be a part of their revelation. I again repeat, I am not a fan of "Throwing In The Towel," but I am beginning to believe sometimes you have to. When your personal health, both mentally and physically are being endangered because you are doing too much for others and not enough for yourself, it may just be time for you to "Throw In The Towel." Knowing when to give up, quit, say uncle, or do anything other than continue trying is foreign to me. I really want the best for everyone, but I am getting more hairs of gray, not because I am stressing but because I worry about folks sometimes who don't understand the words I am trying to share with them from my heart.
Perhaps, like me, "Throwing In The Towel" wasn't an option for your, but I am just saying sometimes walking away from something or someone is the best thing you can do for that person, and perhaps yourself. "Throwing In The Towel" doesn't have to necessarily mean you quit. You may just need to concede to a better, bigger, or stronger opponent. I am really beginning to buy into my new philosophy: As long as you did everything you could possible do, you can't lose, only those who fail to try everything under the sun, suffer lost. Sounds like a fortune cookies don't it; I know. My new philosophy gives me a new perspective on "Throwing In The Towel." I am not advocating for you to adapt my philosophy, nor am I attempting to get you to "Throw In The Towel" in your life, however, I am saying that even the best of us have to know when to say, when.
~Towels Need Love 2
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 216 "Support"
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If I haven't learned anything from my own recent personal/professional experiences, I have learned that "Support" is important. Now, it is not the "Support" that you feel you are giving other people, but the "Support" or lack thereof, they feel they are getting from you. I have always thought of myself as one who lends major "Support" to others, but lately I feel as if no matter what I do, individuals still feel as if I don't "Support" them. What is more surprising to me is that I believe I offer "Support" in various aspects, but if the sender's "Support" isn't reaching the receiver than there is a problem.
I am really perplexed about this "Support" thing. I mean, I don't believe anyone outside of my fam truly "Supports" me. I guess therein lies the problem. Perhaps, because I don't get much "Support," I don't know how to give it properly. That may be one of the reasons, why others feel as if I am not very "Supportive." What's weird is I don't hear this argument that I don't offer "Support" from the majority. Its only the minority who feel that I don't "Support" them, but in my mind if I fail one, I fail them all.
I ask each of you to measure the level of "Support" you offer to your children, family, individuals you care about, work with, or have a chance to cross paths with in this life. "Support" is important and can make or break some people. As a person who isn't really use to "Support" or "Love," I have to learned to recognize the importance of these things to other people. At the end of the day what you do for others is all that matters.
~I am trying to get it right...
Monday, November 15, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 215 "Child Birth: A Black vs. White Perspective"
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So its been a minute since I have been able to truly write about something that most people see but don't really talk about. Thus, I feel compelled to discuss with you all today, "Child Birth: A Black vs. White Perspective." Now, if you have no idea what I mean by my topic today, I will elaborate now. What I plan to do in the following is describe the various "Perspectives" shared by "Blacks" when expecting a new child and "Whites" when expecting a new child. Now there may be a number of similarities, but in this piece I am going to focus on the 5 differences between the two races. Lets begin.
1) --"White" couples plan their children or child bearing down to the month and time of day to try for pregnancy.
--"Black" couples, if they are even a couple, usually have children unplanned and unintentionally.
2) --When a "White" couple finds out they are having a child, they instantly become elated and overjoyed. They immediately begin calling and sharing this good news with anyone and everyone they know.
--When a "Black" couple finds out they are having a child, denial, mild depression, disbelief, and shock sets in. First there is this verbal jousting conversation regarding who the father is and whether or not the baby should be brought into this world. This baby is kept a secret and until the time is right and some very important decisions are made the less people that know about this situation the better.
3) --When "White" people find out they are expecting, they are in no rush to find out the sex of the baby. They head over to the local hardware store to buy both blue and pink paint with the expectation that no matter what sex the child is, its a boy or a girl will be proudly displayed in the child's new room.
--"Black" people are more concerned about the sex of the baby. Most black men, while they may not be at all excited that you are having a baby, may find more solace in the fact that it is a boy. While "Black" women, just want to make sure that the baby is healthy. While they may prefer one sex over another depending on the type of relationship they had with their mother and or father, they just want the best for their future child. The room for the child is not so important, because if they are at home with mom, they may no longer have a room and if they aren't at home, they may be on their way back to the house with their parents.
4) --"White" people shop well in advance when it comes to baby clothes, toys, shoes, walkers, teething rings, etc.
--"Black" people wait on their baby shower. Just in case the father doesn't come around in time enough for the birth, at least the other single mothers around will gather together and attempt to provide the necessary items a new born may need.
5) --There is rarely an uproar for "White" people regarding who the father of their baby is or isn't. Unless its on Maury Povich. Depending on the woman, there are usually guys coming out the wood works to claim that they are the father of this unborn child. Their parents or the future child's grandparents are elated and can't wait to keep the baby for days, weeks, and summers to give the parents a break.
--"Black" parents usually have some sort of negotiation regarding who the father is or isn't. "Black" men may know very well that they are the father of the unborn child and will deny it out right, even after birth and beyond. Because "Black" parents know their parents aren't going to keep their new grandchild for extended periods of time, unless its absolutely necessary, "Black" parents seek out and employ GOD parents. These are people who generally are there to help provide additional personal/financial assistance to the parent or parents to be.
I could go on, but I won't. Now before you get your panties in a wad, I know all the aforementioned does not hold true for all "White" and "Black" people. Yes, there are "Black" people who do things similar to the "White Perceptive" and there are "White" people who do things similar to that of "Black Perspective." All things don't hold true for everybody. I write today, only regarding my "Perspective" and what I have been fortunate or unfortunate to experience. If the above does not seem realistic or true to you, feel free to ignore or leave this blog immediately. I am just sharing my experiences of "Child Birth: A White vs. Black Perspective."
~Colorblind Me
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 214 "Black Men II"
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This picture look familiar? Contrary to popular opinion this is not where we belong!!! For those of you who do not know, I am very passionate about a lot of things. One of those topics that I hold near and dear to my heart is "Black Men." As a doctoral student, most of my research is on "Black Men" in America. More specifically, the challenges that "Black Men" face. Not only am I an advocate for "Black Men" but I generally care about the successes and failures of them. However, no matter what I write about or try to do to change the negative perceptions many people have about "Black Men" there are always a few who are working to make sure those perceptions become someone's reality.
I struggle daily with my identity. I mean, I know I am a strong brother, but some of the things some "Black Men" do make me ashamed to call myself a "Black Male." For instance, the murder rate in the African American community is exacerbated because of one gender, "Black Men". The incidents of "Black" on "Black" crime in our community is so high due to turf wars and pure ignorance exemplified by "Black Men." Most of the time, these "Black Men" can't even describe what they are fighting for. It's a situation where someone stepped on someone else's shoe, bumped into them at a party, or looked at them the wrong way. It's not like that are fighting for freedom, equal rights, or to avoid oppression, they are fighting over personal beefs and killing tons of innocent people along the way.
I am only one, but I am serious about trying to reach the "Black Men" out there. I haven't figured out a way to reach the masses, but I am trying. Any ideas? What I have gathered is most of the current "Black Men" are so stuck in their ways, it is most difficult to converse with them in an attempt to enact change. However, I believe we can began to re-shape and re-mold the minds of the young "Black Men" in our society. This gives us an opportunity to challenge them to change their ways before they get old enough to start carrying guns and selling drugs. Although, they are doing this at a very early age now, I ask all of you to help me detour these young "Black Men" from a lifestyle that could ultimately lead them to jail or back to jail. If you have a son or get a chance to interact with any young "Black Men," please encourage them to do something positive with their life and discourage them from doing the negative things their homeboys, father, grandfather, or the other people they look up to did or are doing.
If we continue losing our "Black Men" then we will become instinct like dinosaurs. The role of the "Black Man" in this country and around the world will become a folk tale or a memory. We need "Black Men" to keep our place in history books. It not fair to put all this unnecessary pressure on "Black Women" although, I have no doubt they can handle it. We as "Black Men" are suppose to be: the foundation for the nation, the leaders in our communities, the bread winners in our households, the life support for our families, a hero to our children, a soul mate to our wives, and most importantly a father to our children. "Black Men" to accomplish this we have a lot of work to do. We have got to do better and not tomorrow, but ---TODAY.
~"Black Men" Stand Up
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 213 "The Good, The Bad, & The Indifferent"
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So in my humble opinion there are three sides to most people, "The Good, The Bad, & The Indifferent." I figure some of you won't agree with this statement, so I am going to attempt to demonstrate to you why I think this is the case.
"The Good"
Most people on earth are raised to treat people fairly. I can't say all parents, but most talk their children about the importance of being nice to others and treating them as you would like to be treated. From childhood, most children are taught to share and play nice with others children. In most households, stealing, lying, and violence are frowned upon. Most of these lessons that you received as a child, helped instill in you some values. These set of values are what shaped "The Good" in you. "The Good" things about people make others like them or enjoy being in their presence. Even the meanest people around you have some "Good" in them somewhere. It just may be a struggle to find it. "The Good" in all of us, in my mind makes us seek love, peace, and happiness. "The Good" in you can make a positive impact on you and all those around you if you let it. "The Good" is my most favorable part of people, because in some ways I see it as CHRIST-like.
"The Bad"
Now "The Bad" is the exact opposite of "The Good." "The Bad" in all of us, makes us rebellious. "The Bad" in us causes us to not want to do "Good" at all. "The Bad" is very problematic because it will always get us in some sort of trouble. Our parents or guardians, worked hard when raising us to keep us from being "Bad." Some of us, naturally, shift to "The Bad" because we enjoy the mayhem and chaos "The Bad" brings with us. Sad to say, but it feels "Good" sometimes to be "Bad." How contradictory is that?! I mean, "The Bad" in all of us, can in some way bring some of the same feelings that the "The Good" does. The only problem is, some of us don't know when or how to put a stop to "The Bad" and we let it control us. Hence, the high rate of violence and crime in our communities. "The Bad" has caused so much damage and is destroying us all. It has taking over some people and it isn't even safe to go outside anymore. "The Bad" has to be stopped or it will lead us all to our graves, before our time. "The Bad" is working hard to destroy "The Good" forever, but it WON'T WIN.
"The Indifferent"
"The Indifferent" in us is that part of us that doesn't really care either way about some things. When we are "Indifferent" we normally don't have a "dog in the fight," so we could really care less about the outcome. "The Indifferent" in us all is okay at times, but at other times it could be problematic. For example, sometimes you need to have an opinion, speak up or make a decision. Being "Indifferent" could cause someone else to be hurt. If someone is talking to you about their situation, and because you can't truly relate you don't actually try to give them the best advice, your being "Indifferent" could cause them to make a decision that could destroy their marriage, life, or family. I am not a fan of "The Indifferent" side of myself or the "Indifferent" side of most people. I think it is imperative that we all be as informed as possible and make decisions on things and speak up and speak out about other things. "The Indifferent" can be pointless. It like not voting; you aren't being counted or considered. It's like you don't have thoughts or an opinion. "The Indifferent" may be okay sometimes, especially when you are attempting to avoid drama, but other times, you need to choose a side. "The Indifferent" renders us all irrelevant if we don't make ourselves relevant.
Some of us operate in one of the three aforementioned sides more often than others. My personal preference is "The Good." But at times, especially in my own private time I enjoy, "The Bad." Don't we all? However, I really don't do "The Indifferent" much at all. Sometimes, I have to, but it is not my personal favorite. I ask today, which one are you mostly? If you don't know, explore within yourself, try to find out. You might just surprise yourself.
~Mr. "Goody" one shoe; I can't find the other one.....
Friday, November 12, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 212 "k"
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Okay, we have got to stop with the mis-utilization of "k." Perhaps it doesn't annoy you or make you highly frustrated, but I hate it when I send someone a 50 word text and all I get back is "k." "k" yourself! And you know what I means. I'll push you into traffic. Oh, how this bothers me. Worse than that is when I am having a conversation with a dude, which is very rare, and he sends me "k" in response to something I may have said. Kneegro, do some push ups or something! Hear me and hear me well, "NO GROWN MAN SHOULD FROM HENCEFORTH, RESPOND TO ANY TEXT MESSAGES WITH K." The nerve of you guys. It's just not that masculine, to hit your big hommie back with "k." It makes me want to punch you all in your chest-piece.
I may be blowing this out of proportion, but it seriously gets on my last nerve. I hate it! I mean it is horrible when you are having a disagreement with someone thru text and rather than respond to your point or participate in the debate, they send you a "k" as a way of letting you know they received your correspondence. Now, I know you are going to say, "well at least they let you know they go it," screw that! Respond to the kid accordingly. If I take my time to develop my thoughts and express them in an actual full length text, then you do me a solid and return the favor. No its not, "k" for you to be so lazy you can't add one more letter to the word. Its actually "ok" for those of you who don't know it.
I know part of the problem is our heavy reliance on texting. I will talk about that later, but at this very moment I am telling you, if you want to discontinue/end a conversation with me in record time, respond to me with "k." See what happens. I promise you boo boo, it will be the punctuation on that sentence and the ending of that story. Keep your "k" to yourself. Before you for me to "k" you. I don't want it, deserve it, or need it--"k?!"
~I'm over you and your whack short-hand.
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 211 "Modern Day Slaves"
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***VENT ALERT, VENT ALERT, VENT ALERT***
Do you want to know what grinds my gears? Yes, rappers and ignorance most certainly do, but this is something that bothers me too, "Modern Day Slaves." Now I know you may have an idea of those persons I may be referring to, but just in case there is any confusion, let me explain. "Modern Day Slaves" are those individuals who act as if they are going to get whipped by masta' if they don't do something. Or they are those people who feel the need to say, "yes sir, no sir boss" with every request they are given. All of you know a few "Modern Day Slaves." They are the people who feel the need to remind you that the boss may come in any moment and catch you doing something wrong and get rid of you, so you best be on your best behavior. They act as if the job they have is the only job in these Americas they can perform, thus it is imperative for them to walk around on egg shells and when the overseer says, "jump" they begin to even before asking how high? "Modern Day Slaves" fear the boss, any type of leaders, unemployment, and life itself. "Modern Day Slaves" act like house negroes, anxiously awaiting masta's return so they can report on what us other negroes have done wrong. "Boss, He Ain't Workin'!" Lol!
"Modern Day Slaves" act as if they have an opinion not consistent with the leader they may be subject to canning immediately. These people are one of the reasons we have yet to get as far as we need to be as a people. They are stuck in those imaginary chains of bondage and have yet to embrace the freedoms that are afforded to us all. "Modern Day Slaves" walk with their head to the ground and if you speak to them, they act as if it is still wrong to look you in the eye. Perhaps, you all don't get a chance to experience this, but I do all the time. Most of the time I am fortunate to be in leadership positions. Some of my subordinates, who obviously think I am going to take their "Freedom" papers away respond to the "Modern Day Slave" way. I don't think I am any better than anyone else, and the fact that I am chosen to lead, just means someone else paved the way for me and it is my hopes that I could do the same for you or someone else. But, "Modern Day Slaves" don't understand this new age philosophy that we all are equal. They can't get over what they saw when they watched Roots.
I hope when I am referring to "Modern Day Slaves" I am in no way referring to you. In my Amistad slave voice, "Give Us, Us Free." That is exactly what I am trying to do. Here is a public service announcement to you "Modern Day Slave" person, break those shackles in your mind. You are free to live, thrive, and make decision on own, popular or unpopular. Have an opinion. So what if no one agrees. Be heard, be counted, for GOD SAKES, be FREE!
~Hum'n An Ol'e Negro Spiritual As I Type
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 210 "Tired"
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Your ever realized how "Tired" you are on a daily basis? You ever get "Tired" of fighting? "Tired" of being unappreciated? "Tired" of working to make a difference? If your answer is yes, to all of those, then you and I have something in common. It's like Fanny Lou Hamer said, sometimes you get "Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired." I am "Tired" folks, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. I am "Tired" of pushing people to do right. "Tired" of believing in people who don't believe in themselves. "Tired" of always having to be the bigger person and walk away. "Tired" of being betrayed, mistreated, and abused. I am just plain ole' "Tired."
But I cannot or will not quit, give in, give up, take a break, or rest. Many are "called but only a few answer." I chose to answer my call. I could've ignored it like so many of you, but if not me, then who? If not you, then who? Yes, I am "Tired" but so many people lost their lives, fought countless hours, and worked until they were blue in the face to pave the way for you and I. So no one really cares to hear how "Tired" we are. We have to keep on keeping on. Find ways to re-energize ourselves, because there is still much work to be done and very little time to do it. No matter how "Tired" you are, you must continue to work diligently towards pursuing your goals, dreams and aspirations. Somewhere down the line, the fact that you know how to work even when your "Tired" will all pay off. We can all rest when our destiny has been fulfilled and we journey to our home in the sky and sit at the right hand of our FATHER.
~Yawning mentally as I draft this....
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Shock Value: Entry 209 "Friends"
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I am not convinced at all that "Friends" are necessary. The last time I decided to call someone "Friend" or consider a group of individuals my "Friends" was in middle school. I am not so sure what the purpose of "Friends" are anymore. I have heard a number of people talk about their "Friends" and how much they mean to them, a few months or years later, those so called "Friends" betray them or stab them in the back at the first chance possible.
For me personally, I have two categories of people in my life: Family and Associates. I will explain the variations between the two. People who are my associates are just those people I may converse with, work with, share spaces and places with. These are individuals who I have determined are a part of my life for the season and reason they are present, but not necessarily for a lifetime. My relationship with these individuals isn't personal and I am not so concerned personally with the decisions they make unless they negatively affect me. These people I solely associate with, but we don't have any personal interactions whatsoever.
On the flip side there are those people I consider to be Family. Now, when you have made it into my inner circle you are good for life. People I refer to as my family may not be in my bloodline, we may not have share any relatives, or live in the same country, but these people I will ride or die with. These people can have my very last and I will do whatever it takes to make sure they have what they need to be successful in this life til' the extent I can. I love my family, and that is something I don't just throw around often. My family means the world to me and they know it, if not, I am telling your right now.
I am not advocating to you to classify the people in your life the way I do, but I just don't understand the title "Friends." I often think people incorrectly categorize people in their life, and give them the "Friend" title because they don't know what else to call them. What is worse, due to social networks, people who you have known only through virtual interactions or through a request can become one of your "Friends." Do they deserve that title? Probably not. I think "Friends" and "Friendship" in general is overrated and oftentimes fake. It's okay if you don't agree, but I think you all should re-access the way you use the term "Friends." Everybody isn't your "Friend" and if you don't know that, get into a bind, you will find out the hard way.
~Friendless Me & Proud of It
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