Monday, February 28, 2011
Colloquialisms
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It has gotten to the point today, that I don't even know half of the current slang or jive people are using. In my attempt to have conversations with the least educated and most educated, I often times find myself in both occurrences saying, "What did s/he just say?" Colloquialisms, or slang particular to a certain cultures has gotten way out of hand.
I use to think I was cool because I could keep up with the terminology of the hood, street, and the boardroom. But not anymore. First off, Colloquialisms differ depending on where you are. What may mean one thing in the 'Sip (Mississippi), may mean something totally different in M.I. YaYo I(Miami). One use to be able to listen to your favorite rappers favorite rapper to keep up with the lingo, but I honestly believe these days people are just making up stuff. Some Colloquialisms don't even make sense. People just be making up stuff on the go and if it sounds good to them, they tend to continue using it. People who aren't that bright, co-sign on the new terms, thus causing the originator to use it all the time now.
I don't mind Colloquialisms. But please be reminded that we have to use discretion. There is a time and place for everything. Here are a things that will help you along the way. 1) While you are at work and are dealing with customers, whether you know them or not, Colloquialisms shouldn't be a part of your vocabulary. 2) If you are the only person who knows what your Colloquialism means, please define it for those of us who don't know what the hell you are talking about. 3) Lastly, just because you think a Colloquialisms is cool or hip, that doesn't mean it is. Some people need their own personal lame monitor.
Trust, I want you to have fun. It's what life is all about. Words are exciting and should be used appropriately. Colloquialisms, slang, and jargo are what make language, language. Use them and have fun doing so. Just make sure you are using them at the right time, so we don't see you on the 5 o'clock news embarrassing an entire race of people.
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Priorities
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These days I am ashamed to be American. More than that, I ashamed to be a minority in this America. Over the course of the last few weeks, grocery stores, shopping malls, car lots, etc. have been packed with countless people. Now, there may be a number of reasons people are spending at an all time high in this post-recession, but I can think of one---Income Taxes. Now, I don't have empirical data to support my claim, but I do spend a lot of time out and about, and I have noticed the influx of people flooding stores daily. Prior to the beginning of tax season, one could run into the store, grab one thing and be out. Not these days, you have lines in the parking lot and at every register. I say all of this to say that I believe some people's Priorities are all messed up. Let me explain.
Priorities are of mass importance. In my mind, people who don't have Priorities don't have a plan. It is amazing how people come into money, whether earned or retrieved by claiming someone else's child, yet it gets wasted because they don't Prioritize. Now, I ain't judging because I know some people need a few necessities that only tax refunds or pay day advance loans allow them to get. But, a number or you, just do your best Rick Ross impression and "Blow Money Fast." It's pretty sad actually. I have spent time asking store owners questions about the number of customers and of course most of them reference the fact that it's tax season. One proprietor said something that will stick with me forever. He said, "There is nothing like tax season! We always over-staff and overstock stuff; sit back and watch these people run in the store and purchase things they can't afford. We know and they do to, that the repo man will be looking for that car or the bank will be expecting that loan to go unpaid, but hey, if they are dumb enough to waste all their money, its might as well be in my store." He then chuckled and said, "I have a family to feed. I know they probably buy junk before they buy groceries. You know why? Their Priorities are all f'd up!"
I was po'd. Not because of his comments, but because he was telling the truth; whether I liked it or not. The problematic piece is that no matter what I say or do, people will always have "f'd up" Priorities. People put partying, drugs and alcohol before their children and family. Some people would rather put 20's on their car then buy diapers for their children. Some people would prefer to live in section eight/government subsidized housing and drive a benz, then purchase a home they can call their own. Some people would rather buy clothes, shoes, and flat screen tv's then save money to send their child to college or pay their current bills off. I could go on and on. But, why do these people do this? Because they don't have their Priorities in order. A person who doesn't Prioritize will always find themselves in some form of debt or hurting someone they say they care about.
Priorities matter! Get it together people. Take a look at yourself and fix it. Prioritize. Only get what you can afford. Only buy things that you already have the money to pay for or you know you can pay for without external funding like loans and tax checks. Stop trying to impress people with your house, car, and other material things when you know you don't have the means to pay for those things. Its not rocket science people. Suddenly, I feel like Dave Chappelle, "They shouldda have neva' gave you Ninjas money!!!"
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Pride II
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While watching the Dukes of Hazzard this morning, Uncle Jesse Duke reminded me of a lesson about this thing we call Pride. As the old saying goes, too much of anything is overkill and Pride isn't any different. What I mean is, too much Pride isn't a good thing at all. It is ok to have Pride, but it is something very different to have so much Pride you let it negatively influence your decisions or change your character for the worse.
Some people sit back and allow their Pride to destroy the wonderful relationships, companionships, and associations they took years to build. Pride can make a fool out of you. Pride can divide a family. Pride can destroy your life. Pride can cause unnecessary hard ache and pain. And worse of all, Pride can cause you to forget the values and beliefs that were instilled in you as a child.
I try to be very conscious of how Prideful I am or may be perceived to be. I have worked hard on my image over time and have come to realize that we all have to constantly check our level of Pride. Pride is good for you, especially if it gives you the courage to do things you wouldn't otherwise do. But Pride can be bad for you, if it keeps you from doing those things, like saying I'm Sorry, when you are in the wrong. Please be reminded to have Pride, but don't let it make, break, or define you.
Friday, February 25, 2011
Arguing Is Overrated
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I don't see how you people do it. If there is one thing I can't stand to do is Argue. Arguing Is Overrated. I don't know one positive thing that comes from Arguing. I mean, people sit around and Argue all-day long for no reason. If you want to get me to shut down faster than the speed of light, try to start an Argument with me. I don't Argue with people under any circumstances. As a matter of fact, if the kid has to Argue with you, in the words of the late great Bernie Mac, "There Is Gonna Be Some Furniture Moving!"
Arguing is unproductive, induces stress, and ultimately serves you no purpose. One can never win an Argument. Just because you get the last word, doesn't mean you are the actual victor in the Argument at all. Normally, it means the other person just got tired of going back and forth with you or just didn't care enough to continue the pointless debate. It's no secret, ma'am/sir, Arguing Is Overrated.
I am just saying, "all of you have more important things to do with your day and in this life then Argue." If you spend time allowing this type of negativity to find it's way into your life and ruin not only your day, but perhaps your relationships, friendships, & associations, you will regret it forever. Arguing is Overrated and if you are with someone or around someone who loves to Argue, let them know it is Overrated today. If you aren't happy, then you won't be productive, and Arguing won't help you find happiness at all.
Thursday, February 24, 2011
Words
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I am going to do something a little different then usual. Each day I push all of you, but today I am going to push myself to do something different, open up. You all will be the first beneficiaries of this. Lets see how this goes.
As all of you know who follow WoodWorkz, part of my assignment as the Admiral of this ship is to give you daily nuggets/tidbits to help you navigate successfully through the numerous challenges you may or may not face in this life. But most recently, when I asked someone did they follow my writings on here, they said to me, "No. It's Just Words." For a moment I didn't know whether to be offended or not. I was hurt and discouraged. I was also embarrassed because for the first time in a long time I ran out of Words. I had no idea how to respond to a comment like that. I wanted to get real Colored/Ethic and give that person a piece of my mind, but then I realized that perhaps what I do so passionately is just Words. Or is it?
I write, and I write, and I write faithfully, with the hope that someone somewhere would feel a bit of inspiration, motivation, and/or encouragement. Unfortunately, I am miles away from most of you who frequent WoodWorkz, so these Words are all I have to offer you at the moment. But let me tell you a secret. These may just seem like Words to some of you, but this is not a hobby for me. I truly believe in every character, subject, verb, predicate, punctuation, sentence, and paragraph I type. I never want any of you to need a verbal pat on the back to help you through the day and not be available to give it to you.
So I say to you ma'am and whoever else that believes my writings are just Words, you are absolutely right. And we are just people, but it's the actions and decisions we make everyday that give us life. If one person makes one minor change for the positive in their life because of these Words, then I have done my part/filled my assignment. Perhaps these Words aren't for you or everybody. I am finally okay with that. Thus, I will continue to write these Words until you all inform me collectively that my services are no longer needed.
~Tha' Word--Smith
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Say It II
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Too many people bite their tongues. I mean, they know they have something to contribute to a conversation, discussion, or a healthy debate, but for some reason they just don't. I don't understand why some people have this fear of retaliation. Perhaps they think what might come out, may come out the wrong way. I am a huge proponent of the ideal, if its on your mind and in your heart, just ---Say It.
I think people are more stressed and depressed then they need to be, because they won't just Say It. They hold so much stuff on the inside that definitely needs to come out. Of course, I believe it's not so much what you Say, but how you Say It that really matters. Some people need to hear that they aren't cute, smart, or perfect. Other people have fed them lies their whole life, but the GOOD BOOK says, "The truth will set you free." Free those people baby! Don't sit on it, ponder about it, just Say It.
There is so much freedom in Saying It. I mean, I am not so concerned about what people think about me, because frankly I only have trouble sleeping at night due to insomnia and not because of people who could truly care less about my welfare or yours. If people think they can Say whatever they want or do whatever they want to you and you aren't going to do anything about it, they will. From this day forward, take back your life and stop letting people run over you, physically and verbally. This is your life, that is your mouth; if you feel the need to express how you feel or just plain let someone know what's bothering you, don't hold it back any further, take a deep breath, open up those lips, subtract the attitude, and just ---Say It.
~Trust if feels so good!~
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Greetings WoodWorkz Nation! This is your captain speaking!
Well, Dat Kid from Cleveland has done it again with his 3rd release " A Paralax". Ladies and Gentlemen, SoulKlap is my former roommate,Morehouse Brother, and One of my closest friends. His talent as an MC and producer are unmatched in today's game. Klaps Soulful sound, approach to lyricism, and artistry is truly "hip hop" in its purest form. With that said, Download and enjoy!
Its SoulJourny/Soul Essential/Luxury Music/WoodWorkz for LIFE
http://soulklap.bandcamp.com/
Bullets
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In an extraordinary time in this county and world, things are going haywire. I mean people all over are fighting for the freedoms they believe to be deserved, while we in our little neighborhood, projects, and corners are fighting civil unrest amongst ourselves. No need to worry about the issues in the world at-large because we can't escape the ignorance and senseless violence that is plaguing our community. These days people retaliate in a very different form. While throwing hands, a good fad, or boxing match use to solve most problems when I was young, today, people are taking it way further then one could ever imagine. They are becoming tactical enforcement units like the terminator and instead of sparring and being down after one is proclaimed the victor, today people are grabbing guns. Now, I don't have a problem with guns. It's not guns that killed people, its stupid people with guns that kill people. At the end of the day, its all about the---Bullets.
Bullets Fly, Bullets Rang Out, but inevitably Bullets Kill. No matter what news station you turn on today, you will be engulfed with stories of people either shooting, looting, or killing. What's sad is that oftentimes its innocent people who are being murdered or injured because of unaccounted or errant Bullets. Someone saw the need to pull out a gun and shoot for no real reason, other than the fact that they are a coward and believe that a gun makes them superhuman. I don't know about you, but I am so tired of people dying over dumb 'ish, while people in other countries, who don't have half the freedoms we do, are putting their lives on the line for what they believe, and we eliminating our own existence over nonsense.
The reality is: I can't just blame people, ignorance or Bullets. At the end of the day, violence boils down to lack of education, parenting, programming, and intervention. We all need help. Not just me, not just people of color, but all of us. All of us need to step out of our comfort zone and help enact change. We can't stop individuals from doing whatever they do, but we can work to make sure that Bullets remain on the shelf or in our own personal forms of protection strictly for life and death situations. We living like we Bulletproof--but we aren't!!!
Monday, February 21, 2011
K.I.S.S.
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Just recently I was reminded of something a great mentor told me. "When you are trying to get a point across, either written or orally, just remember to K.I.S.S. Now, I know some of you are just as perplexed as I was when he first told me. I was like, "K.I.S.S.; is he hitting on me?!" Dumbfounded I stood there in his office with the most puzzled look on my face. And like a flash of lightning, he enlightened me and with these words that changed my life forever. He said, "Yes, I said K.I.S.S.--KEEP IT SIMPLE STUPID!"
At first, I was offended because I was like, "did he just called me Stupid?" But, then he went on to elaborate. "The easiest and clearest way to get a message from the sender to the receiver is to K.I.S.S. " Again, I was like okay, now I know what that means, but is he still calling me Stupid? He stated, "Most people never get their points across or get a chance to finish a statement because they don't know when to cut out all the extra stuff and just get straight to the point. Oftentimes in this life, you will only get one shot or one moment to say something that matters that could change your life or circumstances forever. If it takes you too long to get it out, then you may regret it for the rest of your life. That is why you should just, K.I.S.S. ---KEEP IT AS SIMPLE AS POSSIBLE AND PRETEND THE RECEIVER OF YOUR MESSAGE IS THE STUPIDEST PERSON YOU KNOW. Break the message all the way down to only the essentials. "
The light bulb went off. Immediately, I got it. Those who know me, know I am very passionate about a lot of things and I can be a very, very, very, long-winded brutha at times. But now-a-days, even more, I am understanding the necessity of K.I.S.S. Your boss, loved ones, or associates may have had the longest day ever. They simply may be exhausted or plain disinterested in anything you are saying at the moment. Don't continue to rape their eardrums by droning on about you. Just K.I.S.S. and Keep It Pushing. You will be surprised how productive K.I.S.S. can be. Dumbing down things is not popular, but it may be the best way to reach your end goal. As long as the person you want to hear you out, listens to you, then you have found success. I don't know about you, but K.I.S.S. has opened up many opportunities for me in this life. And it is/was one K.I.S.S. I didn't/don't have to worry about getting mono from.
~Note to self: K.I.S.S. with everybody and often, unless otherwise notified~
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Deferred Dreams
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A Dream Deferred
by Langston Hughes
What happens to a dream deferred?
Does it dry up
like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore--
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over--
like a syrupy sweet?
Maybe it just sags
like a heavy load.
Or does it explode?
What does happen to Deferred Dreams? Do you know? Because even I, the guy with numerous answers, have no idea. However, since I don't know what happens to Deferred Dreams, I strategically and emphatically emphasis the need NOT to Defer any of your Dreams. I know some people may tell you, that you are too old to be this, not pretty enough to be that, or lack the necessary talent to be anything. But ma'am/sir, "if you Dream it, you can achieve it!"
I write simply today to tell all of you, "no matter what happens or goes on in your life, don't Defer your Dreams." Deferred Dreams are lost Dreams. I personally don't care if any one believes I will be famous, because in my world, I am the most sought after celebrity I know. Love, money, time, and/or the lack thereof of all the aforementioned is no reason to Defer your Dreams. You only live once. There is no need to take Dreams to the grave with you. Spend the rest of this life, trying to be who you feel you are, or who you want to be. Just don't waste away your life and leave this place with countless ---Deferred Dreams. That would be sincerely tragic.
Saturday, February 19, 2011
For Colored Girls....***Review***
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I thinks every now and again, I'm going to throw in a movie and album review or two. Today, I have to talk about Tyler Perry's "For Colored Girls..." First off, I know I am one of the last people on earth to see this movie. But, I am not a true fan of Tyler Perry's movies. Don't get me wrong, the brother is super talented, but his plays are more my cup of tea. I love them all! His movies are bit stereotypical when it comes to Black women and more exclusively Black men. Perhaps, I misused the term "a bit." His movies are chalked full of stereotypes. I use to think the brother hated Black men. Some of his movies, like rap video use to make me ashamed of being---a Black Male. It's sad, but true.
Anywho, back to the movie. So even before I turned the movie on I had several pre-conceived notions. One, I hadn't heard people raving about it, like they do with other films from Mr. Perry, so I figured it was nothing special. Secondly, because of the title, I figured this movie wasn't for "Colored Guys." Probably seems dumb to you, but I most certainly thought this was going to be a chick flick. Now, was I right; partially. The movie to me was more a celebration of dance, womanhood, sisterhood, acting, feminism, Black Star Power. . Any movie backed with that many stars from Hollywood, most definitely couldn't be below marginal. And indeed it wasn't. The poetry and the plight of Black women in these Americas both hit home for me. I am a true male feminist. Through research and personal experiences, I have come to understand the issues Black women face in not only America, but in the world at-large. Most of the occurrences in the movie, although over dramatized at times, is the true story of some young/old Black female.
Regarding my other notion, was the movie strictly for "Colored Girls?" Absolutely not; although I can see how some "Colored Boys" would be disinterested or turned off by the story. I am always perplexed at how Black men are displayed in Tyler Perry's movies. It is very troublesome to me, because as a brutha who is already feared because I am both Black and Educated, I don't need any additional negative press. The media and rappers are doing a great job of destroying the reputation of Black men all by themselves. However, in this movie I was able to look past the portrayal of Black men and understand that why that guy may not have been me, there is surely a Black man who has done exactly what the movie displayed or worse. But lets be clear, not just Black men, but men of other races and women too, do trifling things.
All in all, I give "For Colored Girls" 4 out of 7 diamonds. While I enjoyed and understood the moral to the story, I thought it unnecessary to have that many celebs in the movie. Oftentimes, the character got lost in the fact that one was like, "Oh look at Whoopi or Janet." But, thats not their fault, them are just some powerful sistahs. Thanks TP for what you do for the Black community and for adding a little more color to the motion picture industry. Now, bring on this new MADEA; I can't get enough of that man/lady!!!!
Friday, February 18, 2011
Mean & Angry
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Why in the h, e, double hockey sticks are people so Mean & Angry. It is like some people wake up upset. Perhaps it is there life or lifestyle, either way it ain't my/our fault. I am perplexed at some people. It makes no sense just to be Mean & Angry for the sake of doing so. It is a tad bit ridiculous that you can't find anything in your mind to say Nyce to anyone or nothing in your life to be Happy about. But, you can always think of something to keep that smile upside down plastered on your face. Mean & Angry people need a hug and a kiss, or to be pushed off a cliff.
Now, I am not encouraging you to try to show them any affection; that might get you shanked! However, I am saying don't take it personal when someone is Mean & Angry at you. Nine times out of ten their disposition has absolutely nothing to do with you. They are Mean & Angry all the time. Don't let there mood impact yours. You have way too much to be Happy about and to live for to allow people who want to be Don/Debbie Downers to negatively impact your life.
This goes out to all you Mean & Angry people out there; get over it! Or go strap yourself to a bomb and dive in the ocean. I know that is kinda drastic, but they deserve it. I am sick and tired of people being Mean & Angry to me, others and especially to children. It's perfectly fine if you don't like the kid, I could care less, but some people really are hurt when you are Mean & Angry. Listen up "Grumpy Smurf," if you are Mean & Angry all the time, perhaps you need to look in the mirror or rearrange some things in your life. We miss the old Nyce & Happy you. Somewhere down the road you lost yourself. If you need help finding that old you again, drop a brutha a line, I'll help you out pr- bono. I bet that probably just made you Mad; SMDH!
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Let Go
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So, I am going to take this time to talk to each of you on a very personal note right now. There is something that I want you all to know. All of us need to learn when to Let Go. There is one thing to hold on to things that need to be held, but there is another thing to hold on to things because you are afraid to Let Go.
Personally, I am no longer in the business of keeping people who don't want to be kept. I use to try to be Capt'n Save Em to everybody I encountered. But recently, I have to begun to take my own advice: "Trying to be everything to everybody, will lead to you being nothing to anybody. " Thus, I am now going to begin the process of Letting Go of not only people, but my past as well.
Today marks the beginning of our future. If we Let Go of what has held us in place or has weighed us down, we can ultimately move quicker towards what has been prepared before us. Learning to Let Go isn't easy, but it's necessary. Sometimes I feel guilty when I think about Letting things and people Go. More so, because if something happens to it/them, I tend to feel personally responsible. But it's not my/your fault. People have choices in life, unlike things. Sometimes the best thing we can do for them is Let Go of them. Even though we love them, we still may be holding them back. Let Go today; its important. It signifies the beginning of our cleaning & healing process. Open up your heart and your mind and begin to Let Go, at this very moment. ---Don't you feel better already?
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Selfless Versus Selfish
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For as long as I can remember, I have always put other people first in my life. I don't just mean loved ones or people I know, just people in general. My ultimate goal has always been to make people happy. I grew up in difficult circumstances, so I aimed to use my humor and super-ridiculous personality to bring joy and happyness to those around me. Now, three decades later, as I Self-reflect I am realizing that I am a little too Selfless and not Selfish enough.
I never thought that I would ever consider being Selfish, but I am coming to the realization that people tend to take advantage of your niceness. That shouldn't be shocking to me, but I use to be so focused on making people happy, I never really cared if the person(s) was using me. I mean, as I said before, I don't mind people using me, but it's to the point now where people try to use you up. I always figured Selfless acts will be counted when I reach those HEAVENLY GATES, so I didn't do things to get wo/man appreciation. The thought of being Selfish just seemed to turn me off immediately. But these days, one has to learn to put Self first, because it looks like no one else will.
I am not sure what type of person you are. My hopes is that you have balance; you aren't too Selfish or too Selfless. You know balance is important in situations like this. If one aims to live a peaceful and prosperous life it must consist of numerous Selfless acts and a few Selfish acts here and there. But you have to know when enough is enough. Don't give too much of yourSelf to anyone or anything. You just may never ever be able to get it back. Thus, it's important to know when to be Selfless and when to be Selfish. I am no expert, I am learning the difference more day by day.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
All By My---Self
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As mentioned previously, I have to address this issue of being Alone. So many people settle for less than they deserve, just so they can say they have somebody. Regardless of the fact that somebody they have, has more than one somebody to call their own. I just don't get! People fear being Alone. There are so many benefits to being By YourSelf. If only for clarity purposes, sometimes I really enjoy being All By Myself.
Unless you have a twin, you were born into this world alone, and most likely you will leave here the same way. Self is who you are and the one person, that will never leave you. Dependency on others will most certainly cause major problems later on in your life, if not at this very moment. As I've said before, "people you choose to share your life with should compliment you, not complete you." If feel like you can't live without s/he, then you don't truly love Self. No one, but perhaps the MAN upstairs should come before Self. If you don't take care of Self, you won't be in any position to take care or love anyone else. Don't neglect Self for any one or anything, no matter what the circumstances may be. People have free will to do what they choose in this life, and oftentimes that means they are going to do what makes themSelves happy. So should you! Don't sacrifice you happyness and joy for anyone. Trust they ain't worth it.
Why would you want to live your life in the shadow of someone else? Or as J-Hud says, "In someone else's spotlight." You have to learn to appreciate Self/alone time. With everything that is going on in the world at-large, you should be ecstatic to have a moment or two where you don't have to do anything else for anyone, but yourSelf. I spend a lot of time All By Myself. Strictly by choice and not by force. Mainly because it's part of my transition in life. The other reason I am All By Myself, is because until I learn to holistically love, support, encourage and make time for Myself, I wouldn't dare add someone else to the equation. No one deserves 1/3rd of me. Self time gives you time to Self-reflect which means you can look at yourSelf and what you have been through or are going through in this life. If too much drama or negativity is present, then you need to follow in my footsteps; just let go, and enjoy some ME time--- All By YourSelf.
Monday, February 14, 2011
It's Just February 14th
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Today, millions of people around the world, will be exchanging gifts, hugs, candy, and "I Love Yous" to the person that matters the most to them ---at the moment. But, I ask, "how many people really know what valentine's day, or February 14th as I call it, really means?" The origin of February 14th has nothing to do with appreciating each other with materialistic crap. Actually, Saint Valentine was murdered on or around February 14th AD 269/263. He was murdered because even though it was against the law of the land at the time, he would marry Christian couples. Know your history. February 14th is about St. Valentine, not you or your loved one or ones for some of you.
February 14th or valentine's day as you people refer to it, has nothing to do with you going out to Wally World, Target, or Jared, if you balling, and buying something for the one you love, or the one you think loves you. What grinds my gears is trifling people use this day as a day to celebrate all of those who they cheat on, beat on, and continue to claim they love only when it's convenient. But hey, it ain't their fault. Y'all allow it! And yes, I said y'all. Because some of you reading this right now, know dang well your other significant isn't worth the energy, time, or affection you waste on them. But, the things people will do just to say they have someone is amazing. SMHD--Afraid to be alone. ( I'll touch on this later)
I am not advocating against celebrating the one you love, if that person truly loves you and deserves your reciprocated love. But, I am against forced holidays. I believe you should demonstrate your love and affection daily, not just on February 14th, your anniversary, or birthdays if your remember them. Give and share love constantly. February 14th is worst than CHRISTmas now; it's all about the gifts and material things.
To all those who mean something to me, don't take offense, but you WON'T be getting a happy valentine's day from me or any sort of gift. I might send you a Happy February 14th, but I seriously doubt it. I love and appreciate all of you dearly. I will continue to celebrate you and your accomplishments every single day. And not just because everyone else is doing it. Why be one in a million, when you can be one out of a million. Enjoy your day!
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Limitations
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No one puts Limitations on us, but us. People can say all day that we can't do something, but it only becomes a reality when we actually believe what they say to be our truth, and we stop trying. Limitations aren't like dead-ends; they are more like detours. Although one route may be shut down, there is still another available route for you to take, it just may take you a little longer or inconvenience you a bit to get there. Life without Limitations to me is truly living. Today, I encourage all of you to remove those unseen and unforeseen Limitations and start living your life to the fullest.
Others may enjoy living their life with Limitations, because they like playing it safe. If you never try to do certain things, no one can ever say you failed at them. Interesting huh? But the thing about it is, you internally never know if you could have succeeded, which nine times out of ten, you probably would have. Limitations are not boundaries. Boundaries let us know what space we should and should not operate in or to what capacity we may go before its time to tap out. Limitations on the other hand, are set mentally, because at some point we just get comfortable with our current life and environment. Away with Limitations! Why not try a little of everything. I mean you only life once. If you aren't going to truly live this life without Limitations, then you might as well sit down and wait for your time to end. Don't let the journey of life pass you by. Free yourself: mind, body and soul of Limitations and go out and take charge of your life---Immediately.
Saturday, February 12, 2011
The Top
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On your marks, get set, ready,----go! Now that the race has begun, we all have to stay in our assigned lanes. We have left the starting line and now we are engaged in this race to The Top. Competition is indeed healthy, but sometimes the thrill of being the first one to The Top can bring the worst out of all of us. Based on the way we were reared as children, our Tops may vary drastically.
The Top to some people is exactly where they are right now. The family structure, job, spouse, and children they have is all they could have ever asked for. Others have yet to reach The Top they set for themselves. They are building a life for themselves that will ultimately prepare them for a family, a career, and whatever else they aspire to have or set out to accomplish in this life. The Top for some of us is very similar, but we all may have different paths to reach it.
In my little over three decades on this earth, I have yet to reach The Top. I am sure others think I have reached The Top, but I haven't even began my journey good yet. I mean, I have made some strides to The Top, but I have yet to really start my passage to The Top. No matter where you are in this life, remember to keep your eyes on your prize. Please don't be over The Top--ridiculous is not the answer. The Top you seek should be specific to your own goals and aspirations. Don't let anyone set your Top for you. As I say when parting from those who mean the most to me,"I may not see you on tomorrow, or everyday, but I most certainly plan to see you again, at The Top."
Friday, February 11, 2011
Swagger
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I was just listening recently to a mix-tape by Nicki Minaj called, "Working My Swagger." Although, she tends to work her A$$ets, they are indeed a part of her Swagger. Nicki, Kanye, my boy Diddy, and a few others have Swagger that is on a trillion. I appreciate and respect their Swagger. My Swagger currently sits at about a cool mill. Today, everywhere you look, people are talking about this thing called, Swagger. Most recently, Old Spice, one of the most non-minority line of products, has launched these new series of commercials featuring A Black Old Spice guy. I am sure you all have seen them. The line he is promoting is called, "Swagger." There is something so unique about Swagger, also known as Swag.
Swagger is something that I believe can't be taught, but it can be developed over time. It is one of those characteristics about a person that causes their physical attributes to take a back seat. Take Rick Ross for instance. Ross can probably have any woman he wants because his Swagger is out of this world. Jay-Z married Beyonce. Do you think that was by accident?Absolutely not, Jay has crazy Swagger. The thing about Swagger is it is kind of like personality, either you have it or you don't. But, you can definitely develop a Swag of your own. You can attempt to Swag surf all day long, but if you truly don't possess Swagger, than you are just another person doing a new era dance move.
I think each of you should take a moment to give yourself a Swagger Check. If your Swagger isn't up to par, then your experiences, associations, and relationships definitely aren't where they should be. If you aren't sure where your Swag stands, people like me, keep a Swag meter on deck, so I will be glad to help you out. While we may never have Swag like celebrities due to their exposure and money, you can surely have Swagger like yourself. A Swag all of your own. No one should define your Swagger, it's yours. Start working your Swagger today and watch your life change for the better immediately.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Far Away From Here
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Sometimes it is absolutely necessary to take time to yourself. In the hustle and bustle of life, you need to factor into your daily schedule some me time. Time where you aren't obligated to do anything for the kids, your spouse, your family or anyone else. This is time for you to sit back, relax, and imagine yourself being Far Away From Here.
Having the ability to be in one place but let your imagination take you Far Away From Here takes practice. There are so many things that can negatively impact your day that you can't control such as, lying, trifling, and all around messy people, a boss or a significant other who doesn't seem to appreciate anything you do, and/or people who can't drive undistracted, texting and talking on the phone at the same time. None of the afore you can really do anything about, but in these moments when you feel your temperature rising and your frustration building, take a moment to close your eyes and travel mentally, Far Away From Here.
There is beauty in having the ability to control your own emotions. When people realize that nothing they try to do or think about doing can steal your joy, they tend to leave you alone and find someone else to bother. I have mastered the practice of being in the midst of chaos and dysfunction, but only my body is there, because my mind is most certainly Far Away From Here. You have to have a vivid imagination. You really should try it. You and I have too much to live for to allow stress to kill us. I journey physically and mentally often to a place where everybody knows my name and I am always VIP. Somewhere where there is so much peace, happiness, and joy, somewhere Far Far Far Away From Here.
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
The Recluse A.K.A. The Home Body
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While most people seem to enjoy spending their available nights and weekends at the mall, the movies, visiting friends and/or dancing the night away in lounges and clubs, I prefer to be a Recluse. Not to be mistaken for the dangerous spider that will kill you. Just The Home Body that will chill you. A Recluse is defined as a person who lives a solitary life and tends to avoid other people. In lamens terms, A Recluse is otherwise known as A Home Body.
Don't get me wrong, I am not knocking those of you who live among the night. Back in the day, I use to get my party on with the best of them. I guess I kind of overdid it when I was younger. As as adult, I think it is imperative that I slow it down. These days I am often referred to as The Recluse A.K.A. The Home Body. But, truth be told, I enjoy staying at the crib. I have all the sources of entertainment I need: Movies, Music, & More. I am often teased and picked on regarding the fact that I am a Recluse but I am perfectly fine with that. Staying home, means I am not out in the streets. These days, there is so much going on in the streets it makes one want to stay home.
I am The Recluse, that is Mr. Recluse to you. I am The Home Body, that is Mr. Home Body to you. I am perfectly fine with both of those titles and the many other things people call me. In the words of Rocko, "you just do you, and imma do me..." People, don't be made to feel bad because you like to stay home. Those of you who go out, don't be made to feel bad because you go out. As long as you take care of ALL your responsibilities, maintain balance and conduct yourselves in a responsible manner, that is all that truly matters. Whatever it is that you do, just be safe and have big fun doing it.
Regards,
The ReCluse
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
There Is No Place Like Home 2
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I personally am what you call a Nomad. Sort of like a rolling stone. Wherever I lay my do-rag is my home. (I don't really wear hats) Anyway, but that still doesn't mean I dont realize the importance of having a place to call Home. Like Dorothy said on the Wizard of Oz, "There Is No Place Like Home."
The saying goes, "Home is where the heart is." While I agree to some extent, I also believe your heart can be in several places. I call a number of places Home, especially those cities that I have lived in and the people there have shown me great love. I really appreciate people like that. For some strange reason lately, I have encountered people who haven't been Home in a long time, literally. It's the weirdest thing ever. I mean they say stuff like, "well I grew up there, thus I don't want/need to return." Or, "my family and I don't really get along, so I stay to myself out here and do my own things." WHATTTTT?!!!! Mayne, you people are bonkers. There Is No Place Like Home. Especially, if you have loved ones, friends, and family there. You only get one life, and it would be a shame to not share your talents, gifts, blessings, and lessons learned with those who really need it.
I think all of you shouldn't neglect Home and be glad you have one. Some people don't have a Home and no matter how hard they try they will never have a place to call Home. As I always say, "Sometimes we don't appreciate things, until they are gone." Let this stand as a brief reminder, There Is No Place Like Home. Thank your lucky stars you have somewhere to return to, because some people never leave, thus they never have a place to return to.
Monday, February 7, 2011
P.U.S.H.
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Its sad that I have to say this, but in my attempt to share with you I am in no way proselytizing or trying to PUSH my beliefs off on you by any means. I simply write to let you know something that works for me in hopes that it will ultimately work for you as well. I remember as a kid sitting in Church and I use to hear my Pastor and her Prayer Warriors saying, "when all else fells, P.U.S.H. Due to my adolescent understanding, I really thought they literally meant PUSH. As in using force to move something from one place to another. But as I got a little older and start paying more attention in Church, I gained a newly developed understanding of the term P.U.S.H, better known as PRAY UNTIL SOMETHING HAPPENS.
I am in no way, shape, form or fashion the most religious person on earth. While I am a proud Christian brother, I don't claim any religious affiliation. But, I do believe in the power of Prayer. P.U.S.H. has done more for me in times of crisis, depression, and what seemed to be unbearable pain than any other antidote. When it seemed like I had explored all my options and my back was against the wall, I simply continued to P.U.S.H. Now at some point, P.U.S.H.ing that must join this thing called FAITH, because there is no need for you to Pray if you don't believe or have FAITH that your circumstances can truly be changed. You can Pray all day, but if you are Praying for the sake of no other options, then you might just be wasting your time. You might want to add a little FAITH to that P.U.S.H.
In this life, there are a number of things we can control and those things we can't. One of the gifts that come with being in America and other countries is that we are free to Worship, Pray, and Believe as we see fit. In other countries, not so much. I don't know what you are going through today or what you went through yesterday, but I write to encourage you to P.U.S.H. Not tomorrow, Not a few minutes from now, but began to P.U.S.H. right now. See what happens. Don't take my word for it that it works, just try it. Worst case, nothing will happen and then you can continue whatever other regimen you utilize when you are going through things in your life.
Remember when all else fells and it seems like there is nothing else to do, Don't Run, Don't Pull, Don't Jump, Don't Fret, Don't Hide, Don't Quit--Just P.U.S.H!!!
Sunday, February 6, 2011
The Future Is Now 2
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Greetings All:
First and foremost, Happy Sunday! I wanted to take a moment today to write each of you and tell you something. Nope, it's no big secret, but it is indeed necessary. I want you all to know that The Future Is Now. Not tomorrow, not yesterday, not last week, but right Now. I say that to say, that it is time out for sitting around doing a whole bunch of nothing. You have too much to live for to be moping about things you can not change or wondering what would've happened if you would've said no that time(s) you said yes. You have to live with the decisions you have made and you must realize that while yesterday was important, The Future Is Now.
When I say The Future Is Now, I mean right at this very moment. Most people are sitting around waiting on other people to change their world instead of enacting change themselves. I am telling you all that you no longer have to wait. Nothing is holding you back but your unwillingness to do something about your present situations/circumstances. You have no reason to wait any further, The Future Is Now. Put away your past, grab a hold of your present and lunge towards your Future. Not any other time, but RIGHT NOW. The Future Is Now.
Saturday, February 5, 2011
Use Me Up
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The line in one of my favorite songs says , "Oh, you just keep on Using Me, until you Use Me Up." Now that I have gotten a little older and a little more mature, I have gained a better understanding of what it is to be Used. I never really had a problem with it because I was doing what I felt best, but more and more these days I realize that people tend to Use Me, until they Use Me Up. I mean they Use Me for the simplest things that they could get from other people, but for some reason they choose to Use Me Up. While, I don't have a problem with people Using Me, it is a major issue they try to Use Me Up. I think it's important to indeed recognize when people are capable of Using You and Using You Up.
There are several reasons you need to recognize people who are Users. If you don't have the ability to know when someone has every intention of Using You, you may find yourself investing unnecessary time, emotions, and feelings into those persons who don't deserve it at all. See, people can only Use You if you allow them to. Some of us simple aren't strong enough to recover from being Used. I use to be so vulnerable to Users. It was like I had a Use Me Up sign posted on my forehead. But as I kept on living, I have learned that just because I want to help people and allow them to Use Me, doesn't mean I should let them Use Me Up.
I think as nurturers, some of us will always be in the position where people will try to Use Us. But that in no way means you should allow people to continue Using You. At some point in this life, we have to say, "enough is enough." This is one of the most difficult tasks I have ever had to endure and I am still not cured yet. Still today, I allow people to Use Me, but I am working to define when it should stop. I mean, I can't help it, people will most definitely Use Me and you too, but we cannot continue to allow them to Use Us until they Use Us Up. If so, we won't have a thing left to offer this world or anyone who truly needs us.
Friday, February 4, 2011
Still A Classic; LOL!
0In the words of Cedric the Entertainer,
"Do you know how mad you have to be to throw your shoe at a Ninja?!" LMAO!!!
Kids
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Terrible parents get on my nerves! I mean, I have no idea what some people are thinking. I don't think parents understand the Blessings that Kids are. I mean it is underrated the role that Kids plays in one's life until the fact that one doesn't have Kids any more or one isn't able to produce Kids of their own. Some people use Kids in relationships in an effort to try to make him/her stay, which by the way doesn't work. If s/he wasn't ish before you had a Kid for her/him, s/he ain't gone be ish once the Kid gets here. Kids are not a control mechanism for you all to use to try to make yourself happy, but the are a gift to this world and it is time some of you worthless flesh of a parent start to realize this.
There are tons of people in this life, who no matter what they do, adoption is the only option for them. Some of you have Kids and you could care less. The only time some people really give their Kids attention is on birthdays, holidays, or when they discover their Kids have a talent that they can exploit to make themselves money (e.g., football, singing, acting, pageants). You should appreciate, love and be as attentive to your Kids as much as possible. Trust, those things you don't give your Kids, they will most certainly find in the arms and beds of someone else. Kids are not just dependents on your taxes to be sold to the highest bidder, or your little house servants. Its drives me nuts to see people sit around all day on their lazy a$$ and have their Kids waiting on them hand and foot. Somebody should punch you in the face! Your Kids love you, thus they do things to demonstrate that, at least you could return the favor.
Take your Kids places with you. And not just to your parents' house to drop them off, because you want to hit the club tonight. They need to be Kids. Take them to the library to read, to the park to play, on vacations so they can experience the world at-large. The experiences they endure as a Kid will effect the rest of their precious lives. Now, I know some of your Kids are extremely active, I don't believe in calling Kids bad, but they are not the spawn of the devil. They came from your body. The GOOD BOOK says "you reap what you sow." Thus, the things you did as a Kid or you do to your Kids will come back on you. Treat your Kids like the little prince/ss they are. Truth be told, they didn't make reservations to be hear on earth, you decided to bring them here, so you owe it to them to do all you can to take care of them and provide them with the best life possible.
KIDS ROCK!!!
Thursday, February 3, 2011
The Dream.............................................................................................................................................
0Happyness Is A Privilege
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Okie dokie! Now this is my type of party (dances back and forth in his office chair). I am, for once in a long time, Happy on today. For a several of reasons. First and foremost, at 4a this morning I became one of the true pioneers of the cell phone industry. Okay, that is a bit exaggerated, but I did order my I-Phone 4 from Verizon. Let the enjoyment begin. Look out ATT, the massive switch/exodus to the World's greatest cell phone provider (Verizon) shall now begin.
Additionally, I am Happy because I am glad that the MAN upstairs saw fit to breath the breathe of life into my flesh this morning. Now, I don't know if you all do it, but many people take life for granted. As I was watching CNN last night regarding the violence and chaos in Egypt, I was reminded that we as Americans take so many freedoms we have for granted. I am Happy that we can worship, pray, eat, live, love, and procreate as we deem necessary. While I know America has done a disservice to a number of people, more specifically people of color, we are all still allowed to do more things in our society then a number of other societies. And for that I am Happy.
Happyness people Is A Privilege. Happy is something that I am not very often, thus when I get the opportunity to share it, I do. I want each of you to take a moment to share in my moment of personal Happy Privilege and think about all those things that you have in your life that make you Happy. When it seems like nothing is going right on any given day or in your life, those same thoughts are what you are going to use to keep a smile on your face as you remind yourself that the Privilege to be Happy is on your own terms and conditions in your life and it is all yours and based solely on you. Don't let anyone steal your Happy!
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Money, Money, Money....Money
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People tend to believe that Money is the root of all evil. I beg to differ. I'm sure your not surprised. To me, Money is not the root of all evil, evil people are just evil. Money is just another level of influence. One of the things I have noticed is people spend their whole life chasing Money instead of fulfilling their dreams and aspirations. Money is not the end all be all. While it is important, it is not what makes or breaks you. Money doesn't by you happiness, just distractions to make you seem content temporarily.
Just last night I read an article about Puffy and Rick Ross, aka the Bugatti Boys, spending a Million dollars at a strip club. Oh yea, Pharelle from the Neptunes was a part of this coonery as well. I am so disappointed with Ross. I expect this behavior from Puffy, but not Diddy. Sound funny huh? I am so shocked how Money can change people, define people, and worse of all cause people to lie, cheat, kill, steal, and try to destroy their neighbors. Personally, I think you can never have enough Money anyway (spoken like a true broke person), but you will definitely have enough problems with or without Money.
I don't really care whether I have a dollar to my name or a million. Personally, the only reason I work to earn the Money I do is to support those who supported me. It is my hopes that I will be able to use my intelligence, influence, and education to earn more Money, so I can truly impact the world at-large. Most rich people, no matter how much Money they have, will always be poor. Wealthy people have learned to use their Money to change lives. If you only in it for the Money, then you might as well sale your soul, because chasing Money will bring out the devil in you yet.
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