Shock Value: Entry 47 "Shape Up or Ship Out"

Hello All-

It's me again. Your friendly neighborhood blogger. I am writing today to give you some mild advice. Most recently I had a conversation with a good associate of mine. We where discussing men, women, and relationships. Though we verbally sparred for hours regarding the roles men and women play, we both came to one conclusion: People in relationships have the right to give ultimatums if their significant other isn't taking care of home. I remember my grandmother use to say all the time, "If I am going to by unhappy; I might as well be alone."So as your resident encourager, I want all of you to be happy, no matter what. If the one your with isn't fulfilling that roll, then sit them down and tell them to "Shape Up or Ship Out."

You know people sometimes get comfortable in relationships. And from what I hear, they don't do what they did to get you once they have you. All the whispering sweet nothings in your ear, sending you flowers at work, and asking about the kids and the family seem to disappear. Well if you lower your expectations and standards, don't be surprised if people only meet the bare minimum. Just remember: A man/woman should compliment you NOT complete you. By all means you may not be as slim, pretty, or fine as you use to be, but that doesn't mean you have to settle for anything less than what you deserve. As the saying goes, "you can do bad all by yourself."

So today, I encourage you to take a good look at your love life and make a serious assessment of where you are now and where you want to go in the future. If the person you find yourself with today, doesn't seem like someone you want to accompany you to your future destination; you need to make sure you pull off to the side of the rode right now and let your love passenger know where you want to go and what you expect from them if they want to join you. If they aren't willing or perhaps don't have what it takes---politely let them escort themselves out of your vehicle, close the door and keep it pushing. NO ONE SHOULD LOVE YOU MORE THEN YOU. And, no one is worth your pursuit of happiness. Once you have told them, they were warned, now its time to let them goooooooo. Its probably for the best. Learn when to let go.

~Lub Dr.